heres what happened. He is my moms brothers son, hes 3 years my junior and he arranged a trip out there to Las Vegas with 2 peers from college, a cousin from his moms side of the family (so like a distant cousin to me…i know him well enough though) and a nephew of ours.
Tickets have been booked, they’ve even DONE their holiday shopping (clothes, iPods, new cell phones and more new clothes…) have their luggage bags packed and ready and with just 2 weeks to go – he discloses this to me, as if to suggest ‘yeah I can do this all myself and be an asshole too by not inviting you’ .
I feel disrespected slightly and annoyed by the way hes been behaving over the past year.
Everything he knows, does, everything he IS – i invented him. I know this sounds silly, but i’ve got him in my little pocket lol.
I took him with me to Barcelona, Spain in the summer of 06, 2 years before that i went out of my way to pay for his airfare to Prague and brought him drinks and paid for his grub..
and I am the reason he passed highshool with flying colors (i gave him maths and physics tuition and taught him calculus!!)
i don’t really care that much though, its just the fact that my older sister told me he had planned this well before July, during the first week of June to be exact.
So whats he playing at ? could somebody who understands this situation better than I’m doing right now please tell me why hes being a jerk off ?? How dare he not invite me i say !
YOU have done everything for HIM in the past – so in a way he’s had to be beholden to you and live in your shadow all his life. You’re probably the one he looks up to and tries to copy. A role model. I know that from your point of view it isn’t like that – but I think it might be from his. He’s picked a couple of friends from school to go with and has left it late telling you about it because he’s a bit scared of how you’ll react. I know what he’s done seems very ungrateful but he needs to stand on his own feet and not hang onto your coat-tails. You shouldn’t be offended by this. You’ve been a bit like a parent to him so he’s scared of getting told off. All little kids grow up and grow away from their parents and it’s a very wise parent that lets them do it and cheers them on. If I were you, I’d carry on as normal. Don’t show your displeasure and be nice about what he’s doing and wish him well. if I’m wrong and he’s being snide and nasty to you, it’ll make him feel bad about what he’s done to you because you will look VERY good the way you are handling it.